1 to 7 days (depending on what you both feel good about, or, on what your coach recommends).
Zero conversation about issues other than time-sensitive stuff. For time sensitive issues, during a "Cleanse" we suggest a private coaching session. Text Narelle at 801 548 8212 to make an appointment.
The "Relationship Cleanse" is to cleanse your relationship from the toxic build resulting from issues conversations i.e. disappointments, disagreements, who's right, who's wrong, who's fault it is, why you aren't doing more of what I want you to do etc.
During your cleanse, all conversations are directed away from issues, or anything that could even imply disappointment, disapproval, judgement or upset regarding your spouse's performance or character.
What to talk about during a cleanse:
Everything else! The weather, history, favorite childhood memories, common interests, T.V shows, movies, your kids (as long as there is zero implication of your spouse's poor performance), health issues, favorite recipes, etc. Remember when you were dating your spouse? (before getting married). What did you talk about?
A "Relationship Cleanse" a wonderful alternative to the stale, day to day diet of issues, misunderstanding and disappointment. It can also be the perfect launch for personal coaching.
This is also a great launch for "Nightly Inventory", (minus any requests) unless they are operational i.e. "Could you pick up some ice melt for me on the way home from work?"
After your initial cleanse, return to this from time to time, as needed, and as mutually agreed.
If you're not in agreement about it, review "Managing Outgoing" and "Managing Incoming." That will hold you over.
Note: During a cleanse you can talk about issues you have with yourself i.e. regrets, goals, fears, questions about life, religious or spiritual questions or feelings etc. You simply must be super careful to not say anything that could implicate your partner. Keep it close to the heart! There really is so much to share about yourself. You just don't remember how because you've spent years talking, not about yourself, but about him or her!
Tokens from Sponsor: A fun custom to consider for your cleanses
If you both agree, going forward, who ever calls for a cleanse also supplies 2 or more special compensation tokens for this cleanse (depending on how long your cleanse is). These tokens can help restore your emotional bank account with your partner that could go into the red on account of asking for a cleanse.
Tokens could be home made cookies, a back or foot rub, date to a favorite restaurant, being willing to watch the kind of movie your spouse wants to watch, doing an act of house hold service that you've been putting off like cleaning the garage etc.