1) Pick a regular time - Sometime Sunday morning, afternoon or evening usually works.
2) Weekly inventory can include several elements, depending on how you want to approach it i.e.
a) Review current agreements
b) Weekly planning
c) Review of what’s been going well
d) Whatever budgeting conversation needs to occur (this may need a whole separate meeting) and then finally,
e) Solving issues (or tweaking current agreements).
These are issues that seem like they will need a little more attention than just a U.S.A. request at Nightly Check In & Chit Chat but aren’t necessarily requiring a “Real Conversation” or “Love Seat” - although they could.
3) A great way to head into your weekly attention to possible issues is one of you asking the other, "How can I come through for you even better?" From there, whoever asks this takes notes on what his or her partner needs more or less of, how it looks, when to do it etc.
Ideally you would take turns asking "How can I come through for you even better" followed by some brainstorming and then finally arriving at your agreement.
Be intentional, respectful, creative and inspired enough get through issues in no longer than 20 to 30 minutes max, even if you only cover one issue.
4) Ideally, issues should be written down in advance. This insures that you’re not coming into a conversation hot, and that you’ve hopefully done some breakthrough work on whatever it is.
5) Dealing with the issues can either be:
a) a U.S.A. request (unloaded, specific, affirmative) or, if inspired...
b) a Real Conversation (which always works best by quickly reviewing the articles of peace before jumping in), or…
c) a Love Seat.
6) If this is a bigger issue, meaning more than 10 minutes in a Love Seat or Real Conversation, a) make sure your partner brings up his or her issues at the next inventory and b) make sure your partner is fully enrolled in the conversation (You may want to consider a coaching session for anything that is too charged.).